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While the mater being discussed may be important it is none the less not on topic for this mailing list. Thousands of people have joined this list because it is a Network Operations list. If you wish to discuss this further please do so in private email or
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<div dir="ltr" class="">Some people have social skills and are able to not be sex pests when interacting IRL rather than needing the barrier of an app to take care of that</div>
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On 9 Oct 2018, at 10:15 am, John Edwards <<a href="mailto:jaedwards@gmail.com" class="">jaedwards@gmail.com</a>> wrote:<br class="">
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<div class="">There are apps for that now, save the face to face for professional relationship building.</div>
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<div class="">Imagine thinking that someone was interested in you for your skills or experience, only to find that you misread "innocent flirting". That might affect your career choices and the industry as a whole would be poorer for it. At the very least it
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<div class="">Bonus "PC gone mad" points for sharing a mildly racist anecdote and obliviously lowering the tone of the place a little bit more.</div>
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<div dir="ltr" class="">On Tue, 9 Oct 2018 at 08:02, Skeeve Stevens <<a href="mailto:skeeve%2Bausnog@eintellegonetworks.com" class="">skeeve+ausnog@eintellegonetworks.com</a>> wrote:<br class="">
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<div dir="ltr" class="">I hate to do this. I'm going to contradict my previous post about this not being the forum for such discussions.
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<div class="">This post is not to start another thread war, so if you want to abuse or say something else to me, please do it off-list.</div>
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<div class="">I've been catching up on the posts re Sexual Harassment in our industry. I didn't read all of them, there were just too many. So I don't know if this perspective was addressed.</div>
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<div class="">Firstly, I will state categorically that Sexual Harassment is wrong. SEXUAL HARASSMENT is wrong. Flirting or saying hi to a cute girl (or guy) is not wrong.</div>
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<div class="">I hate seeing people go politically correct mad and destroying perfectly good situations because of a few idiots who should be punished. That said, the incident should be looked into to make sure facts/accusations are accurate, as a misunderstanding
or wrong accusation can easily destroy someone as badly as being actually sexually harassed. Bevan was right to make the announcement, and right to send the warning of what would occur next time. </div>
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<div class="">But we need to make sure our industry doesn't have all the fun and opportunity to meet new people squeezed out of it. I'd hate to see events where people are afraid to even say hi to someone they fancy (damn I'm old) due to incidents such as these.</div>
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<div class="">I say this because I have a different experience than most people here in that I met my wife at an Ausnog event.</div>
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<div class="">It was an industry drinks (pre-conference I believe for Ausnog #2)... there was a cute girl named Shanti (white) and her friend Lynette (Sri Lankan) which I found highly amusing based on their names. We had lots of fun with that and there was
much flirting to be had. I wasn't too naughty (based on the result), but I do recall my staff carrying me out of that event due to way too much alcohol.</div>
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<div class="">It turns out Shanti was the one managing the event on loan from Vocus. As a sponsor of Ausnog #2, I had some interactions with Shanti the following few days (my staff were previously doing it - but I was smitten), and during the actual conference
spent most of the time outside doing more flirting with this amazingly cute girl who for some reason was giving me the time of day.</div>
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<div class="">I don't recall any of that event really except Vijay Gill being awesome and Geoff Huston doing his thing. Apart from that... no idea.. I was a little smitten. </div>
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<div class="">A few days later I headed to Christchurch for my first APNIC event (#26) on James Spenceleys recommendation and by some stroke of luck (for me), James brought along Shanti too. Well, that was that. It was my first APNIC, and James asked Shanti
to 'keep me amused' [it was all his fault!!] as we were obviously getting on well. Well, that was the end of that.</div>
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<div class="">10 years later, and recently having our 7th Wedding anniversary, and being the happiest husband ever that I met and fell for one of the very few women at the AusNOG conference. </div>
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<div class="">So. Sexual Harassment is bad bad bad... and anyone who does anyone that is not welcome should be taken care of harshly. But, trying to meet people, is not a bad thing, and as long as people are respectful, people should continue to continue to
have fun at these events and not be scared of meeting new people, for whatever reasons.</div>
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